“One of the best times for figuring out who you are and what you really want out of life? Right after a break-up.” – Mandy Hale
Today, I have a different kind of topic and more of a personal one too.
So here I’m alone in a foreign country and following my dream of ‘Work & Travel’ in Canada. Honestly the last weeks were feeling more like a holiday while doing a lot of sightseeing stuff as the average tourist does, but there were some downs as well.
It was hard when I came here alone and of course having so much time for myself I was thinking about my break-up a lot. And it still hurts sometimes but that’s all right. If it won’t it would mean it had never mattered to me.
The first weeks I got distracted by exploring the city and experience so many new things. But now I finally need to confront myself to all those feelings and my worries. Worries not only because of the break-up moreover because I’m here in a complete foreign country, having limited savings, haven’t really planned out my further journey as for example next destinations, next accommodation and where to get a job.
However, I need to come back to one of the main reasons why I came here. I wanted to focus on me, myself and I. Who I am and what I really want out of life. And that is exactly what I meant to be doing right now. I mean this shouldn’t be just a vacation. I wanted to actually stay here for a while and with it give me some time to figure everything out far away from home.
So let’s come back to the topic we are here for. How to get over a break-up?
I have assembeled some tips that might help you to getting through all of this.
-> give you time for being sad
Get your emotions out there and just let it happen. It doesn’t get you anywhere if you bear down those feelings. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad. Just let it out.
-> talk with your friends and family or write it down
As mentioned before find a way to let your feelings out and just express yourself. Might it be talking to your friends and family or might it be just writing it down.
-> hang out with yourself for a while and treat yourself
After a break-up you will also need some time for yourself. Give you the time to relax and heal. Treat yourself to your favorite food & movie or just taking a bath. Whatever is relaxing and comfortable for you.
-> get out there
Even if you might not get around to go on vacation just get yourself out there. Getting distracted the most positive way you could think of. Taking a long walk in the forest. Sun bathing at the lake or going to a really nice restaurant with your friends.
-> change your mindset
I know it’s easy to say but really try to think of the break-up with a different mindset. I mean, do you want to chase somebody that does not want to chase you? No, of course not!
-> think of it as an opportunity to rearrange your life and start all over again
Just focus on yourself, have your own back and jump into something completely new you might didn’t had the courage to do beforehand. Might it be for example to travel to a foreign country for a while, might it be to learn Yoga or might it be to getting back in shape again. Reinvent yourself and become the best version of yourself.
-> believe that everything happens for a reason and trusting the universe
I’m a big believer in the universe or you could also call it karma or god depending of what you believe in. All ends lead to new beginnings. With letting things go something new is coming to you. Trust the universe and it’s timing. It got your back!
So, these where my tips for getting you through all of this break-up mess but here is the thing: there is no special formula for taking those heartbreak away from you but you can channel those energy and feelings into something new and making something good out of it. And never forget: Trust yourself! Trust the universe! You can get through this and grow on it. Better things are coming for you!
Hope you liked my post and maybe find something helpful in it!
XOXO HEJ BEAUTY